Advent – Authentically Abby

Understanding Love Through the Advent Season

The Advent series concludes with a reflection on love, emphasising its divine nature, exemplified by Jesus’s birth. True love is derived from God and challenges worldly definitions.

When I decided to do an Advent series, I realised it would summarise everything I had discussed since starting this blog. I won’t go in-depth to end the series because I already have a post dedicated to the last theme: love.

I went to church on Christmas day, and during his homily, the priest said something that stuck with me. I can’t recall precisely who he quoted, but he said that Jesus’s birth and life were God’s love personified. I felt such comfort after hearing it.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. -John 3:16

We probably all know John 3:16. It has been imprinted in my brain since childhood. Jesus’ birth fulfilled God’s promise of a Saviour. I want you to picture someone filled with so much love for you that they would give you something so precious to them for your sake. Is that not beautiful to think about? God sets the standard for what love truly is. It comes as no surprise that love is a fruit of the Spirit. In fact, these last two weeks’ themes of peace and joy are also gifts of the Spirit. God is so intentional.

We have the world’s definition of what these three things should be, but they will never come close to what God intended them to be for us. Without the knowledge of God, I can guarantee that we only grasp fleetingly what we think love, joy, and peace are.

That said, here is the love God calls us to embody.

How can you show God’s love to someone today? Let me know in the comments below.

Until next time,
Abby

Understanding the Difference Between Joy and Happiness

During the third week of Advent, we recognise joy stems from God and inner satisfaction, unlike temporary happiness influenced by circumstances. Despite life’s challenges, joy remains constant. Joy and peace coexist, guiding us to find strength beyond external situations.

What if I told you money can buy happiness? Would you believe me? For the third week of Advent, we celebrate joy. We look with joy for the coming of Jesus. Throughout the scriptures, we see a clear theme of joy. Joy, however, is not to be confused with happiness. Let’s delve deeper into this.

There is a misconception that joy and happiness are the same thing. They are not. Happiness is circumstantial. It is dependent on what is happening around us. Joy, on the other hand, comes from the Lord. It is a gladness of the heart that can only be attained from knowing God and being filled with the Holy Spirit.

Joy versus Happiness

We have all heard, “Money cannot buy happiness.” Well, money can, in fact, buy happiness. Happiness is a fleeting emotion awoken by excitement and exhilaration. It’s that feeling we get when we bite our favourite dessert. It’s that feeling of being on cloud nine when things are going right. Going right. Those are the keywords here. Happiness is temporary.

Joy is a long-lasting feeling that does not rely on what is happening around us. It is long-lasting because it comes from a state of satisfaction with life. It comes from a knowledge of God, and with that knowledge brings comfort, satisfaction and a sense of purpose.

Have you ever wondered why people in the most dire situations seem to have this radiance that exudes from them? They’re not worried but rather happy just being. That’s joy. Isn’t it beautiful? I found myself many times this week quoting James 1:2, which says, ” Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds”. I felt irritation brewing beneath the surface whenever I faced any difficulty, but repeating this verse helped shift my mood.

As I wrote this, it made me think of Romans 8:28, ” And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”. I love it when Bible verses click with each other. It doesn’t matter if life does not mirror what we want it to be. It doesn’t matter if we’re doing the most mundane of tasks or are stuck at a job we absolutely hate. Why? Because we know God is working all things out for our good.

Peace as a Catalyst for Joy

We discussed peace last week. Peace and joy go hand in hand. Peace, too, does not rely on our circumstances. With peace comes joy. We can marvel at our day-to-day lives despite everything falling apart. Circumstances should not dictate our feelings and behaviour, but this is common today.

“When they saw the star, they rejoiced with exceedingly great joy.” Matthew 2:10

The three wise men rejoiced joyfully after seeing the star after Jesus was born. Why didn’t it say they rejoiced happily? Jesus came to fulfil prophecy, so back then, Jews were waiting expectantly for this to come to pass. When the star appeared, the wise men realised that the day had finally come. They weren’t filled with happiness because the Saviour of the Jews had been born. The Saviour for generations to come. It was a promise for all time. This knowledge of God’s promise brought joy and inner peace.

So, how do we find joy in a world filled with chaos? We can start by showing gratitude. Gratitude goes a long way in centring and keeping us grounded. What’s one thing that you are grateful for today? At this very moment, I am grateful for the moments this week when I should have crashed out, but I relied instead on the Holy Spirit to fill me and take over. I am grateful for perseverance.

Call to action:

As we close out the third week of Advent, start today by viewing life differently. Things may not be how we expect them to be, but today is preparing us for tomorrow. Be in the moment. Ask the Lord to help you steward each day to the best of your ability. Pursue activities that bring you fulfilment. Be thankful for the trials that come your way. Learn all you have to, and don’t forget to be joyful through it all.

Share your experiences with joy and happiness in the comments below.

Until next time,
Abby

Advent Week Two: Finding True Peace

The second week of Advent emphasises the theme of peace. True peace, stemming from unwavering trust in God, transcends worldly comforts and false expectations placed on people. Discomfort can lead to growth, pushing us toward a deeper relationship with God. Embracing His peace requires reflection, surrender, and intimacy with Him amidst life’s uncertainties.

As we journey through Advent, the second week invites us to reflect on peace. True peace is not just the absence of conflict; it’s the presence of God’s unwavering love and assurance in our lives. This week’s reflection challenges us to consider where we seek peace and to realign our hearts with its true source.

Peace and Safety Are Found in the Lord

In a world that often promises peace through people, possessions, or circumstances, it’s easy to fall into the trap of misplaced expectations. We look to others to provide safety and comfort, forgetting that humans are inherently imperfect. No matter how trustworthy or “perfect” someone may seem, they are bound to falter. When we place all our hope and expectations in people, we set ourselves up for disappointment.

Isaiah 26:3 reminds us, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you.” This verse points us to an unchanging truth: peace is not something we can manufacture or find in others—it is a gift from God that comes through unwavering trust in Him.

Placing our hope in God rather than in man frees us from the cycle of constant letdowns. While people can support and love us, only God can provide the perfect peace that sustains us through every storm.

Wherever You Run, Is Where Your God Is

When life feels overwhelming, we instinctively run to something for comfort—whether that’s a person, a habit, or even an unhealthy coping mechanism. But here’s the hard truth: wherever you run in times of trouble, that’s where your true god is.

If you find yourself constantly running to temporary fixes—social media, relationships, substances, or even avoidance—it might be time to pause and ask: Am I seeking peace in the right place? Psalm 46:1 reminds us, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” True peace comes when we run to Him, not to the fleeting comforts of the world.

Reflect on this: where do you go first when things feel unstable? Do you turn to God in prayer and trust or look to external sources for a sense of control? Realigning your heart to run toward God is the first step to experiencing His peace.

Discomfort That Leads to Change

One paradox of peace is that it often begins with discomfort. God doesn’t bring us discomfort to harm us but to grow us. He uses moments of unease to push us out of the places where we’ve grown complacent, inviting us to step into a deeper relationship with Him.

Hebrews 12:11 says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” Sometimes, God allows us to feel unsettled so that we’ll turn away from the false comforts we’ve clung to and realign ourselves with His purpose.

On the other hand, the devil often lures us into comfort to keep us stagnant. He whispers lies like, “Stay here. You’re fine where you are. Don’t push yourself.” This false sense of security keeps us from growing, trusting God fully, and experiencing the deeper peace that comes from walking in obedience.

The Difference Between God’s Peace and the World’s Comfort

God’s peace doesn’t always look like the world’s idea of peace. The world equates peace with ease, comfort, and the absence of struggle. But God’s peace is something far greater. It’s the steady assurance that He is with us, even when life feels uncertain. Some months ago, I felt this deep sense of calm envelope my body. Immediately, it dawned on me that this is what is meant by “peace that surpasses all understanding”. My world was falling apart, yet I felt assured of what I was going through and what will come. Remember last week’s post on hope?

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14: 27

Unlike the world’s fleeting promises, God’s peace is unshakable. It’s the calm in the storm, the anchor in uncertainty, and the reminder that He is in control no matter what.

When we embrace God’s peace, we learn to rest in His sovereignty rather than striving for control. We stop chasing temporary comforts and start trusting in the eternal promises of a God who never fails.

Practical Steps to Embrace God’s Peace This Week

As you reflect on peace during this second week of Advent, here are some steps to help you align your heart with its true source:

Identify Where You Run: When life feels overwhelming, take a moment to evaluate where you turn. Are you seeking peace in temporary comforts, or are you running to God?
Invite God Into Your Discomfort: If you’re feeling unsettled, ask God to show you how He’s using this season to grow and refine you. Pray for His guidance and peace as you navigate change.
Spend Time in His Presence: Peace comes from knowing God intimately. Dedicate time each day to prayer, worship, or reading Scripture. Let His Word remind you of His promises.
Release Control: Trust that God’s plan is better than yours. Surrender your worries and ask Him to take control of the areas you’ve been trying to manage on your own.
Reflect on His Faithfulness: Look back on moments when God has been faithful in your life. Let these memories strengthen your trust in His ability to provide peace in every circumstance.

Conclusion: A Peace That Surpasses Understanding

As we continue through Advent, remember that true peace isn’t something we can create or find in the world. It’s a gift from God, available to us when we trust Him. This week, take time to reflect on where you’ve been seeking peace and whether it’s aligned with the everlasting peace God offers.

When we run to Him instead of the fleeting comforts of the world, we find a peace that surpasses understanding. A peace that carries us through discomfort, change, and even life’s greatest uncertainties.

Reflection Questions:

Where have you been seeking peace in your life?
How can you invite God into the areas where you feel discomfort or unsettled?
What steps can you take this week to run toward God instead of temporary comforts?

This Advent week, commit to running to God in every circumstance. Share in the comments how you’re finding peace during this season, and let’s encourage one another to embrace the true and lasting peace that only He can provide.

Until next time,
Abby

Finding Hope During Advent: Trusting God’s Promises

Hope isn’t just about anticipation but confidence and assurance in God’s promises. Like Peter stepping out onto the water, hope requires faith, even when the storms of life rage around us. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

In last week’s post, I mentioned that hope stood out as one of the themes shared during a service at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. This insight could not have been timelier, as December 1st marked the first Sunday of Advent—a season traditionally focused on hope, joy, peace, and love. Over the coming weeks, I’ll be exploring these four themes. Let’s begin with hope, a virtue often elusive when life’s storms rage around us.

Hope and Advent: A Season of Expectation

Advent is a season of waiting—waiting for the arrival of Christ. It’s a time filled with anticipation, reminding us that we can trust God’s promises no matter how dark or uncertain our circumstances feel. Hope is like a steady anchor, holding us firm as the winds of doubt and discouragement blow through our lives. It’s not a shallow optimism but a profound confidence that God is who He says He is and that He will fulfil His Word in His perfect timing.

Reframing Faith: Confidence and Assurance

In last week’s post, hope was a central theme at the church service I attended. This directly set the stage for the Advent journey. Reflecting on Hebrews 11:1, I noticed how different translations of the Bible highlight subtle nuances. The NIV says, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see,” the KJV phrases it as, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Both share the same truth, yet the words “confidence” and “assurance” jump out and invite us to see faith not as wishful thinking but as a grounded, unwavering trust in God’s promises.

Hope flourishes in this environment of faith. Where there is genuine faith, hope takes root. It is nurtured by confidence and watered by assurance that God’s plan stands secure, even when our physical eyes can’t see the outcome.

Doubt vs. Confidence: The Battle for Our Focus

A few days before I revisited Hebrews 11:1, I encountered a thought-provoking interpretation of why Peter began to sink while walking on water. We commonly say it’s because he took his eyes off Jesus and focused on the storm. But the reminder in that video was that Jesus specifically asked Peter, “Why did you doubt?” Doubt—not just distraction—was the core issue.

Doubt is the opposite of confidence. It comes in many forms: insecurity, fear, and worry. It feeds on uncertainty and tries to convince us that we’re not enough, that God won’t show up, and that the storms are too big to overcome. When we listen to doubt, we shift our gaze from the Savior before us to the waves rolling beneath us. The moment we entertain these lies, we start sinking. Not because Christ is absent but because we’ve let go of hope and faith—our lifelines.

What We Think Shapes Who We Become

Scripture reminds us that as we think, so we become (Proverbs 23:7). When we allow unresolved pain to shape our perspective, accountability can feel like judgment, correction feels like an attack, and compliments breed suspicion. Unaddressed pain and deception go hand-in-hand, closing our eyes to God’s truth.

Doubt uses the storms of life to sway our thinking, leading us to believe that stepping out in faith is futile. But here’s the paradox: the miracles of God don’t happen in the boat of our comfort or certainty. Much like Peter, we must step out onto the water for miracles to occur. True breakthroughs often come when we leave the safety of the shore and trust God’s leading, even if it means standing on seemingly impossible ground.

Hope as a Shield Against Discouragement

During Advent, we remember Christ stepping into our world, fulfilling prophecies and bringing a hope that transcends every circumstance. This truth stands firm whether we’re facing financial hardship, relational struggles, or spiritual dryness. Hope doesn’t deny that challenges exist; it simply refuses to be defined by them. Instead, it reminds us that God’s faithfulness is never in question and that every difficulty is an opportunity to see Him work.

Doubt wants us to mistake the temporary storm for a permanent defeat. But hope, anchored in faith, declares that the storm will pass and God’s goodness will remain. As the saying goes, “Worry is a down payment on a problem you may never have.” Hope teaches us to pay into God’s promises instead of the enemy’s lies, letting faith shape our outlook rather than fear.

Choosing Faith Over Doubt

We can’t always control our circumstances, but we can control our response. Faith is a choice, just as much as doubt is. Faith chooses to believe that God’s character is trustworthy. Hope springs from faith’s decision to trust His timing and purpose. Together, they help us see beyond the storm to the One who calms it with a word.

As we reflect on hope this Advent season, remember that faith is our confidence, and hope is our assurance. God has never failed His people and won’t start with us. Our part is to refuse doubt’s nagging lies and choose to trust in the God who never wavers.

Reflection Questions:

In what areas have you struggled with doubt instead of hope?
How can you practice shifting your focus from life’s storms back to Jesus this Advent season?
What’s one practical step you can take today to nurture confidence and assurance in God’s promises?

Call to Action:

This week, pray asking God to help you identify areas of doubt in your heart. Invite Him to replace them with confidence and assurance. Write a journal entry about a storm you’re currently facing, and write down a Scripture that reminds you of God’s faithfulness. Let hope, not doubt, shape your perspective as we journey through Advent together.

Until next time,
Abby

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